Figen Murray

2021-10-21T13:41:36+01:00

"Forgiveness became the vehicle I used to stay within my own humanity."

The Forgiveness Project Ruchi Singh

Ruchi Singh

2021-05-28T08:27:34+01:00

"Forgiveness doesn’t mean saying I’m OK with what he did, it means I can continue with my life in a more peaceful frame of mind."

Rosei Ayliffe shares her story of forgiveness

Rosie Ayliffe

2021-04-27T11:21:08+01:00

"For me forgiveness started with first forgiving the system, then forgiving my mum and eventually forgiving myself."

Lis Cashin

2021-07-29T09:15:53+01:00

"My journey to healing started with self-forgiveness and then it became compassion."

Joan Scourfield

2021-02-23T17:34:02+00:00

"I used to feel that if I forgive Jacob it meant I’d forgotten James but now that Jacob has done so well forgiving him feels really natural."

Kia Scherr

2021-02-23T17:36:38+00:00

"Through forgiveness I’ve learnt that love doesn’t die."

Brigitte Sossou Perenyi

2021-03-05T15:41:36+00:00

"Forgiveness has freed me because it recognises we are all human and we all make mistakes."

Elizabeth and Fernando Jimenez

2021-08-05T12:20:22+01:00

"At first it was very difficult to forgive Nick but then I realised it was not about forgiving the man but about forgiving his stupidity."

Ivan Humble

2021-02-25T09:31:40+00:00

"I had been totally focused on our differences but after three months of talking to Khalil I discovered common ground."

Janis Hillard

2021-02-25T09:55:36+00:00

"It is through forgiveness that I have repossessed what was stolen from me and put it back where it rightfully belongs."

Irina Krasovskaya

2021-02-25T10:27:46+00:00

"If I think about them too much I start to dream of revenge so then I have to stop myself because I know revenge will destroy me. I cannot allow myself to bleed and die inside."

Andrea Martinez

2021-02-25T10:26:15+00:00

"Deciding to forgive was a process, it’s not something that can happen overnight."

Margot Van Sluytman

2021-02-25T10:29:41+00:00

"At first I hated the very notion of forgiveness. To tell someone who is in pain to forgive is brutal. Forgiveness can’t be prescriptive."

Christopher Emmanuel

2021-02-25T10:31:21+00:00

"My anger broke and tears filled my eyes as I cried the tears that I’d never been able to shed as a child."

Jacob Dunne

2021-02-25T10:34:14+00:00

"It’s extraordinary to think that the people I harmed the most were the people to judge me the least."

Stacy Bannerman

2021-02-25T10:36:12+00:00

"Forgiveness won’t change the past, but it can change the present, which is where the future starts."

Anne-Marie Cockburn

2021-02-25T10:38:22+00:00

"They wanted him to be punished but I just said, "I'll never ever get justice for Martha because she's dead so why waste two young lives instead of just one"."

Zak Ebrahim

2021-02-25T10:47:02+00:00

"In that instant, I realized how much negative energy it takes to hold hatred inside of you."

Susan Waters

2021-02-25T10:58:42+00:00

"I sense a freedom in trusting the process of life, that justice will find its own course and consequence."

Gayle Kirschenbaum

2021-02-25T14:03:07+00:00

"I choose to forgive her for my own health and happiness and to free myself from mental angst and bondage."

Mike Haines

2021-02-25T14:05:49+00:00

"But my anger is positive – it gives me the drive to continue what I’m doing."

Pardeep Kaleka

2021-02-25T09:26:09+00:00

"We decided we needed to reach out and get to know our neighbours, making contributions to our community and learning together."

Karsten Mathiasen

2021-06-01T15:42:35+01:00

"At first, I thought I was the great forgiver, but in the end I was the one to ask for forgiveness."

Mathew Shurka

2021-02-25T14:09:32+00:00

"In the past I’d always perceived him as this horrible man who didn’t understand or care for me, but now I just saw a father who loved his son."

Liz Stone

2021-02-25T14:12:01+00:00

"Softly the answer came; ‘forgiveness is mine to give, his reaction is irrelevant’."

Matthew Boger and Tim Zaal

2021-02-25T14:25:28+00:00

"I knew the only way to get past what had happened so that it would no longer dictate my life was to forgive him."

Brenda Adelman

2021-02-25T14:19:57+00:00

"The missing step was embracing my anger in a healthy way."

Scarlett Lewis

2021-03-30T15:06:27+01:00

"So please honour Jesse’s memory by consciously changing an angry thought into a loving one, to make this a better world."

Dr. Chuck Sandstrom

2021-02-25T14:39:06+00:00

"To borrow from Harold Kushner, forgiveness is first and foremost a way of seeing. It cannot change the facts about the world we live in but it can change the way we see those facts."

Ray Minniecon

2021-02-25T14:51:22+00:00

"Healing is a meaningless word for Aboriginal people because we possess a wound that cannot be healed."

Bjørn Magnus Jacobsen Ihler

2021-02-25T14:57:33+00:00

"I believe that we have to recognize Breivik’s humanity. I find people’s efforts to dehumanize him really scary because that’s what he tried to do to us."

Jude Whyte

2021-02-25T15:06:19+00:00

"Most people don’t ever forgive because they see it as stampeding on the memory of their loved ones."

Madeleine Black

2021-02-25T15:10:28+00:00

"I used to think that they were evil, but I started to understand that they didn't come into this world that way."

Hanneke Coates

2021-03-19T14:27:46+00:00

"I thought I had forgiven my Japanese captors, and yet was always aware of the hairs rising in the nape of my neck when I heard a Japanese voice."

Tony McAleer

2021-02-25T15:26:59+00:00

"In that process I learned that to hold the ideology of separation, or racism, you have to have a closed heart. An open heart makes the ideology irrelevant."

Jasna

2021-02-25T15:52:29+00:00

"So many victims feel they are to blame, but being a victim does not mean you are guilty."

Munira Beba Hadzic

2021-02-25T15:56:28+00:00

"If someone helps me, then I can help you, and you will help someone else. And as a result, people can stand up for themselves."

Wilma Derksen

2021-02-25T16:01:39+00:00

"At times it was incredibly tough. People said we couldn’t have loved Candace because we forgave. "

Samantha Lawler

2021-02-25T16:09:56+00:00

"Forgiveness is not about forgiving the act but forgiving the imperfections which are inherent in all of us."

Cathy Harrington

2021-02-25T16:14:30+00:00

"Lots of things in life are senseless. There’s so much we can’t explain but we need to be able to love the questions."

Dave Dineen

2021-02-25T16:21:11+00:00

"I dislike the term 'victims' because it places a weight on people."

Grace Idowu

2021-02-25T16:26:35+00:00

"When I recovered myself I told him, 'I’m not crying for David, I’m crying for you. What have you done with your life?"'

Assaad Emile Chaftari

2021-02-25T16:28:09+00:00

"I would venture into the jaws of hell if my story could shift just one person's views and move them away from violence."

Sokreaksa Himm

2021-02-26T10:40:13+00:00

"In time I discovered that forgiveness opens a channel for real spiritual power to work in my life; a power which brings healing and wholeness."

Brima Koker

2021-02-26T10:42:30+00:00

"I said that some of the things we did during the war were terrible and we shouldn’t have done them, but that these were unique circumstances and we were not in control of our actions or of what happened next."

Satta Joe

2021-02-26T10:45:38+00:00

"As I took his hand I was sobbing – not out of despair but a sense relief that perhaps now we could move on from this terrible pain in our past."

Lynette D. Grace

2021-02-26T10:47:47+00:00

"My mission now is to work with Johnny to offer a story of healing, forgiveness and restoration in the hope of inspiring others."

Shad Ali

2021-02-26T11:00:30+00:00

"Forgiveness came from wondering how on earth someone could inflict that kind of pain on another human being without feeling anything."

Kelly Connor

2021-03-04T15:13:04+00:00

"What I forgive myself for today, I don’t know will apply tomorrow."

David Rogers

2021-02-26T13:24:13+00:00

"My wife and I both said after the trial, Adam’s life is gone, but we don’t want to see another life ruined."

Arno Michaelis

2021-02-26T15:07:30+00:00

"Forgiveness is a sublime example of humanity that I explore at every opportunity."

Judith Toy

2021-02-26T15:08:34+00:00

"I had forgiven Charles, not condoned what he did. And I was still afraid of him."

TJ Leyden

2021-03-04T15:21:12+00:00

"The greatest compassion I’ve ever experienced is when I spoke at a synagogue and a Jewish Holocaust survivor came up to me and said they forgave me."

Sammy Rangel

2021-03-04T15:29:56+00:00

"In the end, forgiveness released me from the hate that was consuming me."

Geoff Thompson

2021-10-20T13:12:26+01:00

"Forgiveness is pragmatic. It offers a real and lasting vengeance."

Gwen Gibson

2021-03-04T15:40:30+00:00

"The Restorative Justice conference taught me a lot. I learned that I should not be so judgemental."

Tracey Ford

2021-03-23T16:50:21+00:00

"My work involves trying to give young people hope, helping them see there is life beyond their teenage years."

Mark Henderson

2021-03-04T15:53:49+00:00

"Returning to Colombia, and hearing Antonio say sorry, and that he regretted what they’d done, was very healing indeed."

Jo Nodding

2021-03-04T16:00:15+00:00

"I’m not a victim any more, I’m a survivor."

Lorenn Walker

2021-09-28T18:43:21+01:00

"Forgiving my attacker was easy...But forgiving myself for what happened took me 25 years."

Susie Lomax

2021-03-04T16:09:41+00:00

"I’ve found that in order to forgive someone you have to pass a judgement on them in the first place. And I question that."

Denise Rhodes

2021-03-04T16:15:48+00:00

"He was just a kid, and a bit thick, and here he was in prison, with a criminal record and I was responsible for that."

Elizabeth Turner

2021-03-04T16:22:59+00:00

"For me forgiveness is about finding an inner peace and accepting the cards you’ve been handed in life."

Deborah Hollywood

2021-03-05T11:34:35+00:00

"The thought of meeting Jordan frightened me, and I didn’t want to get into an argument with him, but I wanted to know why he’d behaved the way he had."

Matthew James

2021-03-05T11:43:15+00:00

"On leaving the prison I realised that things had changed for me; I’d gone from being a victim of crime to being able to see things more from Billy’s point of view."

Margaret Foxley

2021-08-26T10:16:13+01:00

"Forgiveness for me is a healing process, but it depends on people communicating and understanding."

Kathleen Key

2021-03-23T16:53:27+00:00

"I needed to know why he had been drinking; what had brought him to that point in his life where he had no thought for anyone else?"

Wael Salame

2021-03-05T11:59:58+00:00

"I have remained active ever since, believing passionately that if Palestinian freedom fighters and former Israeli soldiers can form a group with a common cause, then anyone can."

Riham Musa

2021-03-05T12:03:47+00:00

"I believe violence breeds violence and there’s no choice now for me other than to find another way."

Oren Kalisman

2021-03-05T13:23:43+00:00

"The healing part of the story for me has been starting a new Combatants for Peace group in Nablus."

Nour Shehadah

2021-03-05T13:33:30+00:00

"In Combatants for Peace I am happy to talk to the young soldiers who have laid down their arms and are sorry for what they’ve done. I can forgive them."

Idan Barir

2021-03-05T13:40:12+00:00

"I wrote a letter to my commanders and told them I was no longer willing to take part in any fighting in the occupied Palestinian territories."

Zohar Shapira

2021-03-05T13:47:40+00:00

"Once the anger ceases, the heart opens and understanding is possible."

Chen Alon

2021-03-05T13:51:59+00:00

"My children were human, and yet we had dehumanized the Palestinian children."

Bassam Aramin

2021-03-05T13:57:14+00:00

"I tried to hide my tears from the other prisoners who wouldn’t have understood why I was crying about the pain of my oppressors."

Natalia Aggiano

2021-03-05T14:07:55+00:00

"It was what my mum had taught me – to love him for who he was, not for what he did."

Yulie Cohen

2021-03-05T14:12:37+00:00

"Once I had felt forgiveness for my attacker, I saw that I also had to forgive my parents."

Magdeline Makola

2021-03-05T14:33:39+00:00

"Forgiveness is different from trusting. You don’t have to trust someone just because they are forgiven."

Mary Foley

2021-06-01T15:44:26+01:00

"Forgiveness relieved me of a burden I didn’t want to carry."

Peter Woolf and Will Riley

2021-03-05T14:55:35+00:00

"Talking is the only way forward. People who don’t talk (which is the majority of victims) are delaying and even maintaining the pain."

Kemal Pervanic

2021-03-05T15:01:14+00:00

"I didn’t decide not to hate because I’m a good person, I decided not to hate because hating would have finished the job they’d started so successfully."

Rosalyn Boyce

2021-03-05T16:08:54+00:00

"I said that it was my forgiveness to give and that what he decided to do with it was up to him."

Norman Kember

2021-03-05T16:07:04+00:00

"I think the press particularly expect people like me to be angry and unforgiving but the truth is I have never felt any animosity towards my captors."

Rebecca DeMauro

2021-09-28T18:31:30+01:00

"I knew that if something didn’t change I would be in the graveyard, dead from a broken heart, next to my little daughter."

Julie Chimes

2021-03-05T09:54:03+00:00

"I refused to be pigeonholed as a grim faced victim, although this was the angle many photographers and journalists wanted."

Anne Marie Hagan

2021-03-11T14:54:58+00:00

"Forgiveness is recognizing that the offender is a human being who is deserving of kindness, compassion and love despite the harm they have done."

Richard McCann

2021-09-07T08:16:48+01:00

"I don't believe forgiveness is a one off act; it’s rather something that enters and leaves our consciousness like the tide and it requires working through continually."

Gill Hicks

2021-03-11T15:03:22+00:00

"Through my experience and the sharing of my story, my work has helped create an alternative narrative, that we are all interconnected and interdependent."

Simon Wilson

2021-03-11T17:18:28+00:00

"I think everyone has the capacity to forgive but they sometimes need help finding those inner resources."

Sue Hanisch

2021-03-12T12:29:01+00:00

"Through my experience I have come to believe that we are all equally capable of being the victim and the perpetrator."

Eva Kor

2021-03-11T17:48:38+00:00

"I believe with every fibre of my being that every human being has the right to live without the pain of the past."

Richard Levy

2021-03-11T17:51:39+00:00

"If we don’t understand we’re in danger of history repeating itself."

Khaled al-Berry

2021-03-11T18:07:33+00:00

"I believe that the most dangerous thing in life is to let people become convinced that truth has just one face."

Marie Fatayi-Williams

2021-03-05T10:55:49+00:00

"You need to work hard to achieve peace. It doesn’t just come on a platter of good. You cannot give what you don’t have."

Mwalimu Johnson

2021-03-30T14:57:04+01:00

"Initially I was unable to entertain any thought of forgiveness, but slowly I came to realize that bitterness only creates bitterness."

Azim Khamisa and Ples Felix

2021-03-11T18:30:21+00:00

"We believe that in every crime there is an opportunity to improve society by learning how to prevent that crime from happening again."

Tom Mauser

2021-03-11T18:34:45+00:00

"Our goal is to honor Daniel with acts of hope, and not mar our memory of him with anger or hatred or despair."

Bud Welch

2021-03-12T09:14:51+00:00

"About a year before the execution I found it in my heart to forgive Tim McVeigh. It was a release for me rather than for him."

Celia McWee

2021-03-12T09:19:31+00:00

"My anger is entirely directed towards myself for turning my back on my son when he needed me most."

Mary Blewitt

2021-03-12T09:25:10+00:00

"I couldn’t sit around and wait for something to happen, so I started my own organisation – SURF."

John Carter

2021-03-12T09:27:05+00:00

"They gave me the resolve to not steal and to certainly not commit violence against another person ever again."

Robi Damelin

2021-06-10T12:45:11+01:00

"I also recognized through this process that I was no longer a victim because my life was not contingent on what this man did."

Andrew Rice

2021-09-07T08:56:39+01:00

"I’m refusing to fall in line with what 'they' want, which is visceral hatred between two sides; this gives me permission to reconcile."

Eric Lomax

2021-03-12T12:29:28+00:00

"The letter he wrote back was full of compassion, and I think at that moment I lost whatever hard armour I had wrapped around me."

Martin Snodden

2021-03-12T10:17:36+00:00

"My past violent actions were very destructive, but now I’m fighting for peace in a far more constructive manner."

Salimata Badji-Knight

2021-03-12T10:21:56+00:00

"Out of rage came compassion, and the realisation that this was not my mother's fault, nor the fault of the women who had done this to me. They were simply blinded by tradition."

Jo Berry and Pat Magee

2021-03-12T10:43:19+00:00

"No matter which side of the conflict you’re on, had we all lived each other's lives, we could all have done what the other did."

Michael Watson

2021-03-12T10:47:53+00:00

"Certainly I believe in the concept of forgiveness. It is always better to give than to receive."

Marian Partington

2021-04-13T07:50:25+01:00

"Working towards forgiveness seems to be the most imaginative way of becoming free and offering freedom."

Margaret McKinney

2021-03-12T12:44:10+00:00

"Religion doesn’t matter there. Whether it’s the mother of an IRA son, or the wife of a Loyalist paramilitary, there’s no difference."

Vladimir Khodosok

2021-03-12T12:50:57+00:00

"No one has said sorry, no one has shown remorse, and no one has taken responsibility. So I do not forgive those who were responsible. Would you?"

Charlotte Maude

2021-03-12T13:02:29+00:00

"We live in a blame culture where people now assume that if anything goes wrong you should sue."

David

2021-03-12T13:08:13+00:00

"I don’t deserve forgiveness, but unless you can reach that point where you feel OK, you can never fully heal and move on."

Duma Kumalo

2021-03-12T13:10:55+00:00

"Having been saved myself I feel I must do my best to save others."

Desmond Tutu

2021-03-12T13:13:52+00:00

"If you can find it in yourself to forgive then you are no longer chained to the perpetrator."

Denise Green

2021-03-12T13:17:16+00:00

"Forgiveness was not a word I used at first, but hearing the bitterness and anger I knew I didn’t want to go down that road."

Alistair Little

2021-03-12T13:28:35+00:00

"When someone who has suffered extends the hand of friendship or forgiveness to someone like me, it’s hard not to be moved and inspired."

Anne Gallagher

2021-03-12T13:38:29+00:00

"We listen to people’s stories, but we don’t judge them. There’s healing in that."

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