Anne-Marie Cockburn
“What supports us when our hearts become calcified from our pain?”

Exploring the depths of grief and the unexpected place of love that can be found in the most barren of spaces. Anne-Marie examines how her curiosity to discover the story behind the story nourished a profound realisation of mutuality with men and women in prison.

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About the conversations

This series of six live conversations was recorded between October 2020 – April 2021 delving deep into the work of RESTORE, The Forgiveness Project’s award-winning prison programme. In conversation with the storytellers as well as a participant and former officer, these enquiries, like the work of RESTORE, explore our shared humanity and ask us to imagine – if we had lived each other’s lives, would we have done things any differently? 

Since running the conversations we have had a lot of interest from people asking for access, both for personal interest and professional development. We offer them here as powerful intimate conversations on lives deeply considered as well as models of conversation and facilitation. We offer them fully subtitled on the Vimeo platform. We ask a small fee for all videos, both to support our future work and also to afford privacy and respect to our storytellers who have been willing to share so much of themselves in these intimate conversations.

Thank you Anne-Marie for sharing your experience of grief and forgiveness which was deeply moving. Thank you Sandra for sharing your insights, reflections and experience of the project. Thank you both for creating this inspiring event full of humanity and connection.
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About the guest

In July 2013 Anne-Marie’s 15-year-old daughter, Martha Fernback, spent the afternoon in an Oxford park with friends when she took a half gram of pure crystallised MDMA (ecstasy) which killed her.

In the immediate aftermath of Martha’s death, Anne-Marie started to write 5742 Days (the number of days Martha lived), a book which chronicles a mother’s journey through loss. Anne-Marie has shared her story in RESTORE for the last six years.

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Marian Partington
“How do you live with what you have done?”

Exploring how Marian found the most creative way to turn towards her pain and understand her place in it. She explains how she chose prison work as a form of justice that supported a profound understanding of how we might restore the human spirit. Learn more

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Jason Grant
“How can you come to live a life without violence?”

Exploring how collective and systemic trauma shapes our identities and leads us to live a life where a part of us is hidden from the world. Jason shares his insights into how violence shapes the lives of young men in prison and how he himself refuses to live a life of violence. Learn more

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Anne-Marie Cockburn
“What supports us when our hearts become calcified from our pain?”

Exploring the depths of grief and the unexpected place of love that can be found in the most barren of spaces. Anne-Marie examines how her curiosity to discover the story behind the story nourished a profound realisation of mutuality with men and women in prison. Learn more

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Phill Iveson
“My uniform does not prevent others from seeing me as a human being.”

This conversation offers a rare opportunity to listen to a former prison officer share his own story and how that impacts on his relationships with the men in prison, offering a space for kindness, empathy and compassion to emerge. Learn more

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Siobhan Jackson
“There is no place to hide in prison.”

This conversation examines how prison saved Siobhan’s life and reveals her fears of whether she would be safe enough and good enough to share her story when there was nowhere to hide. Learn more

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Jacob Dunne
“I was shocked that the person I connected to the most was a prison officer – how was this possible?”

Exploring Jacob’s return to prison as a storyteller, and the unexpected resentments and challenges that arose – ultimately revealing a need for Jacob to realise the limits of sharing his story. Learn more

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