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Something must be given up in order to stop maintaining cycles of hate. Forgiveness in this sense is an act of surrender which may mean relinquishing your justified right to retaliate, giving up your moral indignation, or letting go of grievances, grudges and resentments.

It may even mean giving up your old identity of being a victim and starting to recognise a common humanity in all.

Madeleine Black

"I used to think that they were evil, but I started to understand that they didn’t come into this world that way."

Tony McAleer

"I learned that to hold the ideology of separation, or racism, you have to have a closed heart."

Samantha Lawler

"I have compassion for my dad now in the way that you have compassion for the bully who uses aggression to mask pain and hurt."

Christo Brand and Vusumzi Mcongo

"We cannot live with broken hearts. In time we have to accept these things have happened to us. To stay with the past will only bring you into turmoil."

Rebecca DeMauro

"At that precise moment, I realised that the only way I would be able to go on living was to stop hating."

Sebastian Marroquin

"Forgiveness isn’t a utopia, a romantic ideal or an illusion, but it frees you from hate."

Janis Hillard

"Forgiveness, I’ve decided, is about recognizing the hurt and anger that was heaped upon me and saying, ‘No more’."

Andrew Rice

"My attitude is not all altruism. Of course I’m angry, but there’s a spiritual supremacy. I’m protecting my brother’s spirit by putting a barricade around him."

Sokreaksa Himm

"I had to find a way of forgiving them, before the bitterness inside destroyed me."

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